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Thursday, May 28, 2009

What's yours is mine and what's mine is...well, mine.

I haven't blogged since Tragic Tuesday cuz I haven't been feelin it at all. But, since I will be M.I.A for the next 3 days, I decided to post a lil sumthin. Let's talk about selfishness. After the prop 8 fiasco, and my post on monogamy, I think selfishness is a fitting topic. Y'all know I love starting with definitions.

Selfishness- To be devoted to or care only for oneself, concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits and and well-being.

We were all taught that being selfish is not a good look. You don't make or keep friends by solely looking out for yourself. It's better to put others first and to take joy in giving rather than receiving. And I agree with all of the above. But what some aren't taught is that sometimes, being selfish is the only way to get you through. Being completely selflLESS (opposite of selfish in case u didnt know, lol) can get you in a lot of trouble depending on the company you keep. You will be taken advantage of, mistaken as a push over, milked and drained dry. So there does come a time where you need to say back the fuck up and let me do me for a minute. You don't necessarily have to be so rude, that's just me ;-)

Now I have a question: Under what circumstance is being selfish an okay thing to do when you're in a relationship?

When you're wifed up (even if it's not legal grrr), its common thought to share and share alike under all circumstances. Money, food, belongings, time, etc. It's all thrown into one big free for all pool where both of u can excessively have at it. Is this the best way to do things? Or is it best to ration certain things out to your own discretion? Those of you in relationships, how do you and your partner handle things? Is it to each her own or do you share across the board?

4 comments:

Monie said...

Chanel,

I think a good common sense approach is to be careful not to let the give/ take situation get too loppsided. i MEAN THERE ARE SHORT PERIODS OF TIME WHEN ONE PERSON WILL GIVE MORE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAN THE OTHER PARTNER BUT over the long haul things should be pretty even.

Sorry about the CAPS, I hit the CAP lock and didn't know it. Lol

pinkchocolatesunshine said...

share across the board. i live w/ my gf...so it really comes out of the same pot anyway. if she spends $50 its like i spent it and vice versa.

whatilike said...

Hmm something to be selfish about...the only thing I can think of is time to ones self. Or a space (room, whatever) of ones own to get away for a little while. As for material objects (money, etc) I don't know.

Alix said...

I believe it's ok to be selfish when it comes to your mental or physical health. While it may look as though you're only considering yourself, really you both benefit in the long run.