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Keep in mind that this blog is devoted to all things GAY. That means any news, advice, entertainment, literature, reviews, jokes,polls, etc will be completely curved. I might give it to you with no chaser but it definitely wont be STRAIGHT!

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Newly outed gay celebrity in DEEP denial

Okay so y'all know Tyler Perry and all of the Madea plays/movies right? Only about the funniest ish on dvd nowadays. My girl and I have every single play and we watch them & cackle as if it's our first (or 50th) time seeing the trickery unfold. Well two of my favorite Tyler Perry plays are Madea's Family Reunion and Meet The Browns. All of the cast members seem to have amazing vocal talent, but one guy always stood out to me in these 2 plays:
Terrell Carter

He just always had that extra ummph in his voice. His vocal runs are ridiculous and i love the heavy sultriness of it. And it doesn't hurt that he has a really nice body and cleans up rather well. So yeah. There's a lil bit of chocolate goodness goin on there & plenty of straight & iffy women were on that. Today their dreams will be shattered & bubbles will be stomped on as I came across these pics.

Yeah so i guess my gaydar has been shot and buried cuz i didnt see this one coming at all. When i saw these pics i *gasped* and refreshed the page about 3 times just to make sure I was seeing correctly. Mr. Carter is gay as apple pie. Okay no biggie. So am I. Everyone should move on and let the man get on with his career, nice & comfie in his own skin...right? Wrong. I don't know if it was because of how he was outed (a vindictive ex-boyfriend released the above photos) or because he has publicly denied the rumors time & time again, but Terrell is still callin bullshit on the gay issue. I have one thing to say - BULL SHIT. Come on now Mistah Carter. I know it feels like your world is crashing down because your latin jumpoff released the tell-all pix as you were in the middle of touring in your gospel play that tackles such "sinful" issues, but really? You're still denying that you are gay? Really? lmao. Just stop it. We know. I guess some people have been knowing. Hell maybe I was the only slowbie who didn't know jack doo doo squat, but the cat's outta the bag now! Unless you r telling me you were kidnapped and forced to look so seductively comfortable in the arms of papi up there and sportin those "Spectacular-esque" red panties on the beach.... you are GAY & should feel like a weight has been lifted off of your muscular shoulders.

I'm sure Tyler will still use him in a play erry now & then. And he'll fit in just fine with all of the other gays in Hollywood, in or out the closet. Yes, the black community still has strong reservations about the lgbt community claiming to be religious/spiritual, but they need to wake the hell up too because if any one thinks that more than a handful of churches would still be in existence without the talented gays directing choirs, playin the organ, beatin the drums, AND preaching the Word....chile please. Church wold be about as dry as Diddy's bottom lip. I'm jus sayin.

I do not condone randomly outing people. It's rude, vindictive and this situation reeks of a broken hearted guy gone psycho lookin for some payback. I do believe he has found it. Ohhh but karma is a the B I T C H of all bitches...

Now, for a little bit of Terrell's vocal skill AND hear his proclamation of how he never would have made it through this turbulent gay outing had it not been for GOD....

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

There is an I in WE.

"Love is as much of an object as an obsession. Everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it. Those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never... never forget it." -Curtis Judalet

Being in love is a beautiful, unparalleled circumstance. I believe love truly does make the world go around. Without it, we would all be cold-hearted, bitter, resentful, selfish people with nothing to gain and everything to lose. Falling in love is the easy part that us writers drop line after line about. But maintaining a healthy, balanced and delicate relationship is the part that makes many of us wanna jump off bridges. [not really, but im jus sayin]

I think one of the hardest things to do in a relationship is to solidly unite with your partner while also staying unique and true to one's self. Alot of people struggle with falling into their partners shadow, for one reason or another. I've never personally had that problem and with my personality, I don't even think it's possible. But I've definitely been witness to how painful and difficult it is to overcome. Speaking from experience, i've never intentionally tried to shove someone I was with under the bus so i could thrive, sparkle & shine all by my lonesome. lol. That's just rude. I would rather the both of us have the ability to stand out and be the best at whatever it is we individually (or jointly) do. But sometimes, it doesn't happen and someone ends up losing themselves in the relationship.

What happens then?

I think it's important for individuals to have a firm grasp on who they are, what they believe in, and what they love about themselves before getting involved with someone. It's absolutely necessary. Without that firm anchor, you're liable to drown. When you're in a relationship, it's easy to get wrapped up in eachother's everything. I mean, you spend hour after hour with that person, you do everything together, you wanna make that person happy, you don't like being alone, etc. But after awhile, it's also easy for a part of you to become mal-nourished. Your self-identity.

I'm not really sure how to keep this from happening, or how to make things better once it has already happened. But I know it's a problem that can lead to unhappiness, unbalance and discord. Anyone have any insight on it?