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Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Turning straight women out

I've always been fascinated with this. Like how straight were you to begin with if all it took was a wink, a lick of the lips, two strong drinks and some game to get you in a compromising position with someone of the same sex? I know they say [whoever they is] that everyone is merely a split decision away from being at least bisexual. But I don't know how much I truly believe that one. It's hard for me to imagine my grandmother ever EVER even contemplating...uggh.. Never mind. Scratch that analogy. You get my drift.

So if being gay is not a choice, which I don't believe it is. What do u call it when a woman who has been straight her entire life decides to cross over? Natural curiosity? What really confuses me are women who swear up and down they had never had a thought about someone of the same sex and then one day just woke up and BAM, they're gay. Like Hmmm...(digging around in a drawer)I think i'll wear my gayness this month. I don't get it. Can it be something that just occurs over night, like having a lightbulb moment?

For me, sexuality is such a multi-dimensional phenomenon, I would think it had to be something set in place for years on end, even if it takes awhile to figure yourself out. So what to make of straight people who one day get the urge to see if the grass is really wetter, i mean greener :-)

10 comments:

The Pretty Brown Girl said...

I've always said "The body won't go anywhere the mind hasn't already been". I think a lot of it is curiosity, which isn't a bad thing. Sexuality can be fluid with some folks, no? I don't think I can be as gay-friendly as I am and be judgmental of those who want to "try out gayness". It's just who they are, be it bad or good.

Chanel said...

"The body won't go anywhere the mind hasn't already been." I agree! I swear I need that on a t-shirt or sumthin.

miss-b. said...

i cosign the first comment. i don't believe those who say they've been straight their entire lives and then, at one point or another, switched up.

and about your grandmother... lol. i've thought about that, a time or two, with mines. then, i x'd out that notion. we are a completely different generation. as far a sexuality goes, nothing today is taboo.

Chanel said...

I would like to think that nothing is taboo in 2009, but i dont know...if that was the case we wouldn't have to put up the fight for marriage equality. And thats not even no off the wall crazyness, u kno? Like, its just marriage. We arent asking to for the right to have hot sweaty gay sex in public or anything lewd and outta pocket. So i guess some things are still taboo...

whatilike said...

LMAO at your grandmother comments! With straight folks, I think it's curiosity.

"What really confuses me are women who swear up and down they had never had a thought about someone of the same sex and then one day just woke up and BAM, they're gay."

I'll say that for the longest time when I was still in the questioning stage, I only thought about feminine girls. It took a masculine one walking across my path for me to realize I was 100% gay, lol. I didn't even realize studs existed before then...so...

pinkchocolatesunshine said...

wen I was in college some of the girls would swear up and down they were virgins but then a few drinks at a frat party and they would suck any dick within a 5 mile radius. sorry to be so raunchy! but my point is that folks always trying to cover stuff up. too afraid to be made fun of or to be different. so they say "im a virgin" or "im straight" and its a bunch of BS!

can't no one turn anyone gay that already either 1. wasn't already gay 2. curious or 3. just a freak (some folks will do ANYTHING).

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