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Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Getting back to a happy place

I haven't really been inspired to post this week for various reasons. I'm not going thru writers block at all. Quite the opposite. I have lots on my mind that I could write about, but it all feels too personal to me. I know this is my blog and I can steer it any way I see fit, but I didn't necessarily want this spot to turn into my private lesbian soap box, you know? So I think i've come up with a safe post for the day that can incorporate some relevancy for me and possibly something my readers can relate to.

Happy places

I believe our lives are filled with many different facets of function that need attention, TLC & support. Typical categories are career/school goals, intimate relationships, friends & family relationships, and extracurricular activities/hobbies. Sometimes, I am blessed to have a happy balance between all aspects of my life. I live & breathe for those moments. Its a beatiful thing to have a stable job I enjoy, ace all of my classes, have great conections with friends & fam, enjoy abundant writing sessions, all while floating on cloud 69 with my gf.

And then I wake up.

Unfortunately that type of harmony doesn't last very long, at least not in Chanel's world. Most times I can manage a little healthy discord. Give me a B on an assignment and I use it as motivation to bust my ass a little harder. If I have a bad case of writer's block, it usually means I'm overthinking stuff and just need to give myself a break. If my gf & I get into it about something retarded, sometimes it means we just feel like picking on each other, or it's a sign of something deeper we need to fix. Thats all fine & dandy occasionally. But when it starts feeling like the air I breathe is filled with negativity, doubt, hesitancy, frustration, anger, disregard & paranoia...it's time to take a serious timeout.

No one is happy all of the time. It's impossible unless you're on some type of illegal pyschadelic mushroom. So i'm not expecting that. But I do expect to be able to stay on track towards a safe happy place more often than not.

So what to do what to do?? Can you force yourself into a happy place? Or do I have to just sit and wait for it?


prettiboiblues said...

You're right... trying to maintain a happy balance between all facets of your life is a daunting and often frustrating task.

Have you ever heard of the Serenity Prayer?

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference..." (I know it's terribly cliché, but it works...lol!)

Sometimes we have to be OK with where we are...RIGHT NOW... even if it's not exactly where we want to be.

Try to find something (a fond memory, a funny story, a favorite movie, anything emotionally healthy!) to focus on and divert your attention away from the swirling thoughts and emotions that threaten to consume you...

take deep breaths...

and just...


Do this often enough and maybe those "harmonious moments" won't be so few and far between.

(I know this is easier said than done, but learning how to find peace even in the midst of chaos is worth the effort.) :-D

Chanel said...

@PrettiBoi thank you for this. I love the serentiy prayer but it does slip my mind often in times when I need to remember it the most. This is really great advice.

prettiboiblues said...

You're welcome!