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Wednesday, April 1, 2009

*Gay question of the day*

Should you experience having sex with with someone of your same sex BEFORE considering yourself gay or lesbian?

For me, this plays into the whole concept of gays and lesbians being hypersexualized in our society. As a lesbian, I feel as if people tend to think I sit around the house and f*ck 24 hours a day because hey, why else would I be into women?! And gay men have had a horrible rep for the longest now of being sexually "perverted" and promiscuous. I don't think there's a sex-prerequisite involved with knowing your sexual orientation. I've known i liked women since I was four. I was not having sex when I was four...I dont think. Plenty of people just have this feeling deep inside that they are the furthest thing from straight long before they even begin having sex. Now I do believe you should test the waters on both sides at least once in life, just to make sure you're safely on the right side of the island. I mean, how can you know whether or not you're severely disgusted with something if you never try it?

What's your take on this?

5 comments:

Fab Fierce Femme said...

Hey C,
well I'm no gold star lesbian..that's for sure, but I did identify as lesbian (now as queer) before I even slept with a woman. So, in my opinion, people do not NEED TO sleep with a person of the same sex to identify as a lesbian/gay/queer etc. For me, even at the tender age of 19, saying I was a lesbian was more about a politial statement rather than whom I was sleeping with. Just another part of me being a feminist. :)

have a great weekend luv!

*muah*
LL

Chanel said...

Lol, Fierce you sound like so many of my friends who believe their sexuality is more of a political statement than anything else. I admire that. lmao @ gold star. Umm no. No gold stars over here. I think that's my next post. lol.

Alix said...

I just wrote a similar blog today (to be posted later). Someone on another post of mine said that there were no such things as lesbian virgins. If a girl hasn't had sex with another girl she was still straight. Sounds ridiculous to me. Sexuality is more mental than physical. I don't know why people don't understand that.

pinkchocolatesunshine said...

i don't think sexuality has anything to do with sex. i know that sounds odd. but we are so complicated and it's not just black and white.

i think we are who we are even before we are aware of who we are. it may be sleeping with another woman that makes some realize they are a lesbian, but it wasn't that encounter that caused her to become a lesbian. she was who she was long before she knew it.

thats my two cents.

Toni said...

Well...ummmm...I have conflicting views on this. I say, to each his/her own. However, I kno I would never again be someone's first female cuz that shit is 4 the birds! They don't kno how to let go!