Gay & In Denial = FAIL

Allow me to preface this post with a disclaimer: I love feedback. Everyone has opinions and I honestly love hearing them. I believe in the power of controversy to stir up brilliant dialogue on social issues. I fully understand and respect that my views on these issues are not shared by everyone, thus I welcome intelligent debate and discussion. [pay close attention here] But if you reply with even a hint of ignorance or homophobia, I will not publish your comment in my comments section. I will, however, copy and paste your comment into the body of my post, put you on blast, proceed to burst your bubble and carry on with life as planned. If it's worth it to you, please try me. That is all.
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Now onto the reason why i'm blogging in the AM on a Saturday. Donnie McClurkin.

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"How YOU doin?"

McClurkin has given me the absolute unabashed 100% MOST this morning. A few days ago a Youtube "sermon" of his spread like syphilis. Or at least it was highly contagious on MY Twitter timeline. This could possibly be because I follow just about every gay in the Twitter universe *shrug*. But yes, every other tweet was about this video of Donnie going on about how the comunity is failing the kids because they are all being lost to homosexuality, God didn't create us for such perversion, had it not been for the Lord he would still be in the life, etc.

*sigh*

Okay. My first problem with the video was not the content. I'm a born & raised church baby from wayyy back. Im use to the whole homosexuality=sin argument. So over it. My main issue with Donnie is the dramatics of it all. Ohhh McClurkin worked it. Every single minute of that monologue was pulled from the depths of his twinkerbell soul. The 1st 5 mins of the vid are of him sighin and cryin into the mic like a wayward orphan. He laid it on so thick had I been there that Sunday, I woulda had to put up that church finger and excuse myself with a quickness before i started cackling. Donnie's Oscar nomination game is PROPER. He is the Denzel Washington of the gospel world. He pleaded, and begged, and boo hooed and Keith Sweated (whined) with the best of em all while puttin people on blast and shrinking the self-worth of an entire category of society down to nada. In the name of Jesus Christ his Lord and Savior.

*pause*

There have already been dozens of brilliant blog posts on how far gone into denial Donnie McClurkin is about his sexuality. He likes to believe that he's an "ex gay." I don't believe there's a such thing as "ex gay" (especially when u make comments like "I don't eat sugar, but that doesn't mean I don't want sugar."- Donnie. ) So I consider him to be re-closeted. He has chosen to pick back up the burden of shame, guilt and self-hatred that comes along with being a closeted gay. I do not sympathize or empathize with him in the slightest. It's his life, he's a grown man and has to live with his decisions until the day he dies. I just know that living a lie is the most detrimental and painful form of suicide that a person can take part in. Who really needs the prayer here?

So that's that. Onto another member of the gospel community who has gotten press off the subject of homosexuality: Tonex. (The person Donnie calls out during his rousing monologue) I confess to not being able to name a single Tonex song. I've heard of him. I know he's a big deal in the gospel world and i've seen him on the gospel award shows. But I never paid him much attention until i saw his interview with Lexi on YouTube. I didn't even know that he publicly came out of the closet like that in Sepetember of this year. Within nine minutes, I gained more respect for Tonex than I ever had for Donnie McClurkin throughout his entire career. The following paraphrased excerpt is from the interview:

"Yes, I was molested as a young child. My mind was exposed to sexual situations way too early. It could have laid the foundation or planted a seed, but I take full ownership of my sexual exploration... People like to blame molestation for their sexuality. No. Just be honest and say that you're attracted to men. Homosexuality is not a struggle."

*claps & whistles*

You just don't know much it warmed my heart to hear someone separate rape and molestation from being gay. Read this twice: NOT ALL GAY PEOPLE WERE VICTIMIZED AS CHILDREN. Yes, many were. As were many heterosexual people. How do you explain their subsequent straightness? I was never molested as a child. I'm gayer than gay. Therefore, molestation and sexual orientation do not have a cause and effect relationship. Why do people try to force it?

In essence, Tonex was man enough to say- Stop the BS. If you're a man who likes men, be that. If you're a chick who digs chicks, do you. Don't make any excuses to appease those around you or to pacify yourself. Live your life, find a sense of security within yourself, and everything else will fall in line.
Kudos to him for that message. As for Donnie McClurkin, chile boo. Go sit yourself in the corner and re-evaluate your inner being before casting judgment on others. In the classic words of @LuvvieIg (follow her on Twitter, follow me @ChanelSaysSo) - "It's like the pot callin the kettle Ne-Yo"

Newly outed gay celebrity in DEEP denial

Okay so y'all know Tyler Perry and all of the Madea plays/movies right? Only about the funniest ish on dvd nowadays. My girl and I have every single play and we watch them & cackle as if it's our first (or 50th) time seeing the trickery unfold. Well two of my favorite Tyler Perry plays are Madea's Family Reunion and Meet The Browns. All of the cast members seem to have amazing vocal talent, but one guy always stood out to me in these 2 plays:
Terrell Carter

He just always had that extra ummph in his voice. His vocal runs are ridiculous and i love the heavy sultriness of it. And it doesn't hurt that he has a really nice body and cleans up rather well. So yeah. There's a lil bit of chocolate goodness goin on there & plenty of straight & iffy women were on that. Today their dreams will be shattered & bubbles will be stomped on as I came across these pics.



Yeah so i guess my gaydar has been shot and buried cuz i didnt see this one coming at all. When i saw these pics i *gasped* and refreshed the page about 3 times just to make sure I was seeing correctly. Mr. Carter is gay as apple pie. Okay no biggie. So am I. Everyone should move on and let the man get on with his career, nice & comfie in his own skin...right? Wrong. I don't know if it was because of how he was outed (a vindictive ex-boyfriend released the above photos) or because he has publicly denied the rumors time & time again, but Terrell is still callin bullshit on the gay issue. I have one thing to say - BULL SHIT. Come on now Mistah Carter. I know it feels like your world is crashing down because your latin jumpoff released the tell-all pix as you were in the middle of touring in your gospel play that tackles such "sinful" issues, but really? You're still denying that you are gay? Really? lmao. Just stop it. We know. I guess some people have been knowing. Hell maybe I was the only slowbie who didn't know jack doo doo squat, but the cat's outta the bag now! Unless you r telling me you were kidnapped and forced to look so seductively comfortable in the arms of papi up there and sportin those "Spectacular-esque" red panties on the beach.... you are GAY & should feel like a weight has been lifted off of your muscular shoulders.

I'm sure Tyler will still use him in a play erry now & then. And he'll fit in just fine with all of the other gays in Hollywood, in or out the closet. Yes, the black community still has strong reservations about the lgbt community claiming to be religious/spiritual, but they need to wake the hell up too because if any one thinks that more than a handful of churches would still be in existence without the talented gays directing choirs, playin the organ, beatin the drums, AND preaching the Word....chile please. Church wold be about as dry as Diddy's bottom lip. I'm jus sayin.

I do not condone randomly outing people. It's rude, vindictive and this situation reeks of a broken hearted guy gone psycho lookin for some payback. I do believe he has found it. Ohhh but karma is a the B I T C H of all bitches...

Now, for a little bit of Terrell's vocal skill AND hear his proclamation of how he never would have made it through this turbulent gay outing had it not been for GOD....