tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1436604361793179169.post8926826909966406367..comments2023-03-04T03:56:50.797-08:00Comments on The Rainbow Room: Struggle with being out at workChanelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17877058968113836520noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1436604361793179169.post-39870433632130598582009-05-08T07:18:00.000-07:002009-05-08T07:18:00.000-07:00Chanel,
Only a couple of people that I work with ...Chanel,<br /><br />Only a couple of people that I work with know. I didn't make a big production of it though. The people that know found out during the course of conversations, after I felt I could trust them.<br /><br />I haven't fully come out at work for no reason in particular. I don't think it would have any real negative impact, well except maybe with one person. <br /><br />Anyway my advice would be to just let it happen naturally.Moniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02113617226711479447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1436604361793179169.post-8424757691575749822009-05-07T18:41:00.000-07:002009-05-07T18:41:00.000-07:00This is such a tough situation. I think I got luck...This is such a tough situation. I think I got lucky because I've been at my job for 10 years now so they pretty much got to see me go through my coming out process over the years, even though I was outed! Despite that, I drop hints every now and then when in conversation with certain co-workers, but some still act like they don't know because they'll ask me questions about guys and I'm like, really? I'll make a joke out of it but for the most part, everyone knows I'm a woman lover and it's not a big deal. But here's the kicker, I bought a nice little gay sticker for my car 2 years ago so if they didn't know then, that was a pretty good indication.<br /><br />I think you should do it subtly, work it into conversations if its something you can relate to in your life. You don't want it to be a big deal, but you do want that part of your life to be respected if conversations are centered around personal experiences. <br /><br />Oh oh, I also have a co-worker who is strugglying with coming out as well. She came out to a mutual co-worker/friend and the mutual friend confided in me. So I know. But she doesn't let on at all, her family is not cool with it. I feel for her, but we all go through it at some point. Good luck with your journey, Chanel.knowledgehttp://studwithswag.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1436604361793179169.post-24092830467605836222009-05-07T18:32:00.000-07:002009-05-07T18:32:00.000-07:00Same here. I wish I would have done it when I firs...Same here. I wish I would have done it when I first started. Definitely the next job will know. And it's not even like its necessarily their business anyway but, I'm just saying. I'm tired of having the feel akward and give dumb looks when everybody talks about their male issues or how fine some guy was. or when everyone tells their stories. I just sit quietly cause I know get that side look if I bring up a she or her all of a suddenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1436604361793179169.post-58415023895978052182009-05-07T14:54:00.000-07:002009-05-07T14:54:00.000-07:00Yeah i feel you, Glennisha. Its funny because I al...Yeah i feel you, Glennisha. Its funny because I also have a co-worker who is a lesbian and she brings her wife & kids to work all the time, while im sitting at my desk sighing and crying on the inside because I dont feel comfortable being as open. It really sucks. I just feel like it would be one of the most awkward things ever if I were to do it now & i'm just so weary of it...Chanelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17877058968113836520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1436604361793179169.post-28985996179221624842009-05-07T14:43:00.000-07:002009-05-07T14:43:00.000-07:00OMG! You and I are in the same boat. I can sooooo ...OMG! You and I are in the same boat. I can sooooo relate to this post. My mom knows and that was the biggest hurdle for me. There are a handful of people that know in my family but, I also did not make a huge announcement. All of my friends now. For the family that doesn't know I'm sure they've gotten hints and ideas via my FB And Myspace page. As far as work I'm not out at all. They assume that I'm straight. I often feel like a fraud and very uncomfortable because there is a girl there who is also gay and she's completely out. I feel like I should come out and say "hey me too". There are convos sometimes where there are talks about gays and I just say nothing because I don't want to out myself but, at the same token i do want to out myself. Whats even worse is they can easily find out via my blog and the net. Google is a MF so. I'd hate for somebody to find out that way before I out myself. *sigh*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com